Cons of Open and Closed Adoption


- There is the potential for the nervousness or fear the adoptive parents may experience knowing that the birth parents play somewhat of an active role in the life of the child. Depending on how frequent the interaction is between sets of parents, the adoptive parents may find that the birth parents may intrude too much on the new family unit.

- Your child might not want to see his or her birth parents.

- You may feel less of a sense of entitlement and see yourself as not a "real mother."

- Open adoption may attract birth mothers who don't really want their babies adopted, and see open adoption as "halfway."

- The birth mother might feel she should have more input into childrearing than you'd like.


- Adoptive families commonly fear that the birt mother will change her mind about the adoption and want

the baby back. Fear commonly increases for adoptive families without the communication with the birth families and knowledge of their true intentions.

- Although a medical history is provided prior to the adoption, there is no means for acquiring additional information if something medically changes or develops for the child.

- There is a chance that a teenage child may struggle more with identity because of the absence of communication with the birth families.