Private adoptions are done through adoption attorneys, and may or may not involve an adoption opportunity that is located and arranged by the attorney. Some states allow adoption attorneys to find a child and match them with prospective parents, while other states do not allow this. The states that do not allow lawyers to find and match a child with parents are limited to simply finalizing the legal part of the adoption in court.
Private adoptions usually, but do not always, involve infants. If the child involved is not an infant or is part of a group of siblings, the adoption will typically take place before the children become part of the foster care system or before any involvement by Child Protective Services.
In a private adoption, first contacts are made directly between a pregnant woman or both expecting parents and the adoptive parents OR by a pregnant woman and an attorney, depending on each state's laws. Independant adoption is NOT legal in all states and there are many different variations on specific aspects of adoptions laws.
To begin an independent adoption, you must find parents or expectant parents who are interested in having their child adopted. You might want to look in the classified section of your local newspapers in order to get in touch with birth parents. This method has proven to be successful in the past. You can advertise on your own or you may want to use the services of a national adoption advertising consultant. Another affective method of getting the adoption process started is by by sending an indroductory letter, photo, and resume describing your family life, home, jobs, hobbies and interests to crisis pregnancy centers, obstetriciams, and even your friends and co-workers who might be able to lead you to the right person. Another effective way in getting the process started is through internet profiles. With this method, you can get information on potential birth parents from the privacy of your own home.
After you locate a birth mother, there is still a long way to go in your adoption process. You will also need to know about the birth father, who also has a right to be involved in decisions made about his child.
Expenses involved in an independent adoption vary. It is common for the adoptive parents to pay for the birth mother's medical and legal expenses, in addition to their own. Some states also require the adoptive parents to pay for counseling for the birth parents so that the court si satisfied that they both fully comprehend what they are planning to do. A home-study, for which there is a fee, conducted by a certified social worker or a licensed child-placing agency is typically required. Please note that these laws might vary from state to state and it is important to know your state's specific laws regarding this.
Each potential independent adoption situation is different, and this method can be expensive. Since it is the birth mother's full and legal right to change her mind after the child is born, prospective adoptive families often deal with the loss of funds paid for expenses in addition to the loss of the anticipated child. Some adoptive parents purchase adoption insurance as a way to protect themselves from those financial risks. Insurance underwriters require that families work with pre-approved agencies or attorneys in order to purchase this insurance.